09 September 2009

Letter from Lhasa, number 137. (Bost 2005): The Hurried Woman Syndrome

Letter from Lhasa, number 137. (Bost 2005): The Hurried Woman Syndrome

by Roberto Abraham Scaruffi

Bost, B. W., The Hurried Woman Syndrome. A Seven Step Program to Conquer Fatigue, Control Weight, and Restore Passion to Your Relationship, McGraw Hill, 2005.

(Bost 2005).

Brent W. Bost

Naturally, you have to be a woman for profiting from this magic book. Seven is its magic number, seven steps.

According the foreword, women are twice more depressed than men. Or, better, the number of depressed women is twice the number of depressed men.

Chromic stress is the syndrome: “Fatigue is the most common feature of Hurried Woman Syndrome, and it’s usually the first sign of it. However, a common variant is to be overly anxious instead.”.

Do not worry! There is the magic seven step plan of this book.

I. Create balance in your body.

Naturally, the recipe of this this Americanish book is too complicated. ...Not only complicated... Perhaps, rice and water would be too advantageous not only for your body but also for your pocket. ...Something, only something!, more if it is too radical for your survival. However, in this field, easier and cheaper is the best also for your health. Empty your refrigerator. Switch its electric power off. Unplug it. Stop to use it. Avoid shops, markets and supermarket. Follow your survival instinct but not your usual insane psychological desire of food. And you do not need a gym for some physical exercise. Anyway, first, stop your maniacal dependence from food and liquids.

II. Find the right caloric balance.

Again, too Americanish, too complicated. Boiled rice and tap water may be sufficient. Diets and “caloric studies” do not remove your fixation with food and drinks.

III. Exercise. No matter what.

Overall meditation and other mental exercises for moving your personality and body from “narcotic”-food and -drinks to freedom from such manias. Idem for “exercise programs”.

If you keep a food diary and you think you have to become an expert on calories, you keep your fixation on food and drinks.

IV. Rekindle the fire.

What a long recipe you'll find, in this book, also about sex! ...Common sense... May be you have not interest in it, or your partner(s) have not anymore ...with you. You may change yourself. You may change him/them with another one or other ones. You may change both. You may go on without worrying. Or you already have some current solution. ...Or whatever.

V. Identify your priorities and set reasonable limits.

Actually, if you want to break a self-destroying course of life, you have to simplify and to be radical, extremist. If you are “reasonable”, you simulate a change without actually changing anything.

VI. Get the best of stress.

Do immediately what is essential. And delete whatever other duty.

VII. Organize your world.

Or perhaps do not care “to organize”. Just suppress what is not essential. Also in expenditures.

Why to read this kind of books? Only if they are free, if you do not have to pay for them, ...and, actually, without wasting time for really reading them. Just, browse them, eventually. If there is something you need, your eyes surely will catch it.

Also to follow advices, too many advices, may make you more stressed, more hurried. ...The stress, the hurry, of fighting against hurry, against stress.

Bost, B. W., The Hurried Woman Syndrome. A Seven Step Program to Conquer Fatigue, Control Weight, and Restore Passion to Your Relationship, McGraw Hill, 2005.